Judiann is cracking me up! She is continuing to process what we call in our family "the life secret" It is a "secret" because you are NOT suppose to tell your friends about it....only their moms and dads are suppose to tell them....NOT you. Here is a part of the conversation.
"Who told YOU about it?"
"Who told your mom?
"I don't know"
"What if nobody ever told anybody, there would be no babies."
"People would figure it out.
"So a lot of people I know have done 'that', like David and Julie and Shawn and Lindsey?"
"yep" (insert look of shock on her face here.)
"Why are we having this conversation in public?" (we were at Wendy's)
"Nobody can hear us."
(looking around at all the parents with kids): "So all these people have done that?"
"Do Jake and Mitch know?"
"Yep, I told them a long time ago."
"I am going to tell them again, maybe they forgot."
"Oh, trust me, they haven't forgot."
Maybe I shouldn't share this private conversation for all the world to see...but it was just too funny. AND, she doesn't yet read blogs...AND none of you will say anything to her... RIGHT? And if she had it her way, I think she would come right out and have this conversation herself with just about any of you (even though I have advised her to the contrary).
It all started because we were thinking about getting Guinea pigs for pets (to avoid getting a dog) and someone said, be sure to get two girls so you won't have babies. Judiann is thinking that having two girls increases the likelihood that you will have babies cause only girls have babies. So later, Judi asks me do you have to have a boy AND girl Guinea pig to have baby Guinea pigs? So I say, "yes." And she says, "Are people like that?" I say, "they are" and the conversation is off and running.
Parenting note: I have now had the privilege of sharing this conversation with all three of my children. And none of them had heard it anywhere else first. It is such a privilege as a parent to be the one who tells them first. Catch them young, they are not embarrassed...just completely and utterly shocked. Telling them young and first communicates several things:
- you can talk to me about anything
- "it" is normal
- "it" is good
- God has rules about "it" for our joy and protection.
Why did I choose to tell them when I did?...simple... they asked. Well, two out of the three asked, the other one was never going to ask, so we just had to tell him before he heard it elsewhere.